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Author: insight ciyu
Let flowers become flowers and trees become trees.
After middle age, life seems to enter a difficult mode.
Open your eyes and be busy with trivial matters at home and difficult work, close your eyes and worry about the money in your pocket and bother your children’s studies.
40 years old is like a watershed.
You can’t be light any more, and the weight of life is hung on your body, and the years are in a mess.
But the bitterness of life, we can’t avoid it, we can only change the way of living.
Learn to start a minimalist life and manage the following three points, and life will not be too sad.
01
save money
When we were young, we pursued the idea that making money costs nothing and living is meaningless.
I didn’t understand until I was a certain age. If I don’t take money seriously, money won’t take you seriously.
Recently, after revisiting Friends, actor Joey immediately moved into a luxury apartment after becoming the main character.
The weekly salary is used by him to buy brand-name clothes, purses and jewelry.
Occasionally, he is short of cash, and he uses his fame to "brush his face" in the business.
A friend advised him that it was rare for his career to improve and he should seize this opportunity to save more money.
He didn’t agree: why do you have to live like a supporting role when you finally start playing the leading role?
Three months later, the crew cut Joey’s role because the ratings of the series declined.
Joey moved out of the luxury apartment, and the luxury goods he bought at a high price could only be sold at a low price.
When his friend saw him again, he was holding his stomach and auditioning painfully.
It turned out that Joey was infected with hernia shortly after he left the crew. Because he had no savings, he had to find a job first, and then he could reimburse the operation expenses through labor insurance.
From spending money like water to being short of money, Joey’s story verifies Munger’s words:
"The importance of saving money lies not in how happy you are when you have money, but in how embarrassed you are when you have no money."
How many middle-aged people don’t understand this truth
In order to lose face, when a friend buys a limousine, you have to bite your teeth and change it.
For the sake of so-called exquisiteness, you should choose all kinds of famous brands to wear, and you need tens of thousands of clothes.
Earning money is like picking dirt, spending money is like pushing sand with water, and our wallets will be flat if we are not careful.
Now, I agree with an old saying more and more: soup without salt is not as good as water, and people without money are not as good as ghosts.
When is the heart the most bitter? When you treat a disease, your pocket is cleaner than your face, and your heart is the most bitter at this time.
When is the most humiliating time? When you use money, you humbly ask for help everywhere, which is the most shameful.
The writer Li Ao told a story in Money is a Good Thing.
When Sima Guang was prime minister, people often came to visit him.
When he chats with people, the most common question he asks is: "Is your family rich?"
Many people are curious about why Sima Guang asked.
Sima guang explained: if you have no money, you can’t help but bend your back for five buckets of rice; Only when you have money can you have an independent personality. You can not be an official at any time.
Money can not only keep you from starving to death, but also protect your freedom.
How well it is said, money is an amulet, a ship crossing the sea of suffering.
The money to be spent, thousands of dollars and two thousand dollars; You should save every penny of money you shouldn’t spend.
When people reach middle age, everything will rest, and only money can solve their worries.
02
health maintenance
45-55 years old is an interesting age group.
We all say it is the golden age of life.
Doctors call it: the swamp of life journey.
At this age, the body began to decline, organs began to age, and various problems occurred frequently.
Zhihu netizen @ Liyong is a doctor of cardiovascular medicine. He received a 50-year-old uncle.
This uncle is a chain smoker.
He must have three or two glasses of white wine before eating these two meals at noon and evening. If it is a family gathering or a friend’s dinner, he has to drink until he is drunk.
Smoking is even more fierce, with three packs a day. When you are busy, you can have one to relieve your fatigue. When you are free, you can smoke and relax.
Long-term uncontrolled drinking and smoking have laid many hidden dangers for his health.
This winter, once he had a stroke and fainted at home because of excessive drinking. Fortunately, his family sent him to see a doctor in time before he picked up one.
Uncle couldn’t help dying.
In case someone else is really gone, will the whole family collapse?
If he is paralyzed by a stroke, will it drag down his children and partners?
Middle-aged people are the pillar of a family, so they can’t get sick or fall down.
When people reach middle age, it is time to be healthy, not only for themselves, but also for their families.
Here, I have two suggestions for keeping fit.
One is health, health first.
Drink less, smoke less, and plug the loopholes in health from the root.
Exercise more, pay more attention to diet and nutrition, and take good care of your body.
At the same time, insist on regular physical examination every year, track and review the problematic indicators in time, and sweep away hidden dangers.
The second is health care, and it is necessary to raise the heart.
There is a proper noun called "cancer personality".
Modern medicine found that long-term anxiety, fear, sadness and other emotions, these bad emotions will affect and reduce the body’s immunity with a chronic and sustained stimulus, and increase the incidence of cancer.
An inch wider than the heart, ten feet away from illness.
Forget what you should forget, let go, and you will be safe in your heart.
Philosophers have a famous saying: keeping healthy is the responsibility of being a man.
Taking care of your health is the responsibility of middle-aged people.
When we have a good health, we are qualified to protect our families and enjoy family happiness.
03
Bujiwa
For middle-aged parents, the difficulty of life is half the hardship of making a living and half the worry of children’s education.
Especially for the latter, education is a mountain on them.
A wrong question can make them crazy, and a failure in the exam will make them worry.
This should be a word from Professor Peng Kaiping: Education is one of the most anxious places in this society.
In recent years, the news that chickens are anxious is not uncommon.
For example, a boy in Shanxi was slapped by his mother because he was unfamiliar with the knowledge of chemistry.
A pair of 985 master’s parents were so angry with their son that they always had quick-acting rescue pills.
You see, in the end, the parents are exhausted and the parent-child relationship is in jeopardy.
Blogger @ 中中中中 works as a Chinese teacher in a key primary school.
After her son goes to primary school, she will make detailed study plans for her children every day and every week.
Apart from teaching at school, she devoted almost all her time to her children’s study.
In the evening, she will accompany him to finish his homework in various subjects, supervise him to preview and review, and correct problems as soon as they are found.
On weekends, she took her children around in various interest training classes.
Who would have thought that such a chick tortured the children and drove herself crazy.
The child is tired of learning because of the pressure she exerts.
She was angry when she saw the child’s poor learning state.
Mother and son unconsciously fell into a vicious circle of "she is in charge-the child won’t listen-she gets angry-the child loses his temper and doesn’t want to study".
She had to change the way of education: give her children a relaxed learning environment and stop interfering too much.
During that time, she focused on teaching when she was busy, reading books and arranging flowers to entertain her body and mind when she was free, and asked about her children’s learning once a week.
She finally found herself annoyed less often, and her children no longer rejected learning.
Blindly following the trend will only make children depressed and make themselves anxious.
Alison Gopnik, a child psychologist, divides parents into "gardeners" and "carpenters".
The former focuses on children’s habits without excessive intervention.
The latter focuses on their own standards and requirements and transforms children step by step.
Good parents are gardeners.
They only provide soil for children to grow freely.
Let flowers become flowers and trees become trees, which is to free children and fulfill themselves.
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Balzac said: In the stormy weather of life, we should learn from the captain and throw away the heavy cargo in the stormy weather to reduce the weight of the ship.
Once a man reaches middle age, he becomes a captain at the helm.
Looking at our life, one thing after another, one level after another, makes people have to rest.
But after careful combing, you will find that the most important things are nothing more than three things: money, health and children.
Halfway through life, learn to switch to minimalist mode.
When we can solve these three major events, we can actually solve our lives.
Original title: "Minimalist life of middle-aged people: saving money, preserving health and not having a baby"
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